Many of us area all about goals this time of year. As parent, we vow to be more patient, have our kids eat healthier, get more exercise, and enjoy the time we have together more.
When creating goals, one system to keep in mind is the “SMART” system. Using these tips will give you a much higher chance of success—whether the goal is yours, or for your child.
S is for specific. If you want to be more patient, what does that look like to you, specifically? Does it mean you want to yell less? Allow more time for your children to complete things? Be more encouraging? Find at least one specific thing it means to you. Then move on to the next step.
M is for measurable. This is why you need a specific goal. For the patience example, let’s say you want to allow more time for your children to complete things. A measurable goal would be to add 10 extra minutes into your transition times in the morning and before bedtime. So, you’d start the transition 10 minutes earlier, say with a 5-minute warning. “In 5 minutes, we’ll need to get our shoes/pjs/etc on. Now is the time to finish up what you’re doing so you’re ready to change tasks in 5 minutes.”
A is for attainable. It’s attainable to add 10 minutes into your schedule, but probably not to just let the kids come to their natural finishing point before transitioning. Perhaps you want to make sure you say at least 5 encouraging things each day to your child, as opposed to “never being negative again!”
R is for realistic. Never getting upset or angry is probably not realistic. Deciding to breathe deeply before talking to your kids when you’re upset is. That’s also something that is specific, measurable, and attainable.
T is for timely. Give yourself a time frame. “Be more patient” can be put off forever. But saying “I will add 10 minutes to our transitions times for one week” allows you to track what you’re doing. Is it going well? Are there adjustments you need to make, like adding in a 5-minute warning and breathing deeply? Doing something for one week is easier and more attainable than trying to “be good forever.”
And that’s it! Try this system and let me know how it goes for you. Need help getting started? Book a coaching package today, and we can set and track your SMART goals!